friend or family member has a preemie, you may not know how to react.
Here are a few tips:
Send a card of congratulation, balloons, flowers...anything
you would send if the baby was born full term
Send emails, letters, or cards showing interest in the baby
and support of his or her parents. Let the parents know you don’t
expect them to reply if they’re not up to it. Even though you should
ask about the baby, sometimes it’s helpful for parents to escape the
stressful world of the NICU by talking about everyday things.
Send gifts for the baby.
this page for tips on what’s practical clothing-wise, or send a
small stuffed animal, quilt, or afghan.
The new NICU mom probably doesn’t have any time or energy to
take care of herself, so the following things will be helpful: small
beauty items (like nail files and hand lotion), coffee (consider
decaf if she’s using a breast pump or will be nursing), a travel
mug, magazines (nothing preemie related!), a
purely-for-entertainment book, a devotional, a CD of relaxing music,
bubble bath, a small baby photo album, or a small Bible.
Send the parents restaurant gift certificates. They won’t
have any energy to cook. Or offer to cook some meals for your
friends, clean their house, do their laundry, mow their
lawn...whatever might need doing.